DCL 3.4 Instruction | Be a Friend

Video Presentation: Todd Mullins, Lead Pastor, Christ Fellowship, Florida


Poet Ralph Waldo Emerson wrote, “The glory of friendship is not in the outstretched hand, nor the kindly smile, nor the joy of companionship; it is in the spiritual inspiration that comes to one when he discovers that someone else believes in him and is willing to trust him.”  Friendships are important because…

  • Friendship is the foundation of influence.
  • Friendship is the framework for success.
  • Friendship is a refuge in the storms of life.

Make it your goal to be a friend, not find a friend. Here are some steps:

1.  Be a great listener.

2.  Be available.

3.  Have a sense of humour.

4.  Find mutual interests.

5.  Tell the truth when others don’t.


Biblical Case Study: Jesus and His Followers (Matthew 11:28-30, 14:13-16, 17:14-21)

Jesus was and is the perfect friend. He said, “No longer do I call you servants, for a servant does not know what his master is doing; but I have called you friends, for all things that I heard from My Father I have made known to you.” (John 15:15)

Jesus built friendships by:

  • Putting the needs of others ahead of His own needs
  • Taking risks while serving others
  • Being a good listener
  • Speaking the truth in love
  • Initiating servant ministry to others
  • Teaching servanthood by example
  • Walking slowly through the crowds



  • What mutual interests do you have with your current co-workers?
  • Are you building friendships with them?


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