Life and Leadership – Roger Fairhead – 4
Interview series with leadership specialist, Roger Fairhead
When it comes to leading people, how do you turn ‘have to’ into ‘want to.’ Can you provide us an example?
For most of us, our day to day activities will fall either inside or outside of our comfort zone. The area outside of our comfort zone is given various descriptions: the discomfort zone, the stretch zone, or the panic zone. One thing is usually consistent though – there is a barrier that surrounds us that works to keep us inside our comfort zone. It can be called the fear barrier, the terror barrier, the belief barrier or something similar.
Moving from ‘have to’ to ‘want to’ has a lot to do with moving out of our comfort zone. Staying inside our comfort zone for too long can often lead to complacency, resulting in a lack of motivation and the onset of a ‘have to’ mindset. In order to find our ‘want to’, we need fresh inspiration. When I coach people, I liken it to an inspiration zone outside of our comfort zone. It is the place where we uncover our passion, the things that inspire us, our dream.
Each of us has something that holds us back from pursuing our core passion. I think of it as a barrier between our comfort zone and inspiration zone. We will need to overcome it if we are to realise our dream. We need something to help us to overcome that fear, to break through that self limiting belief.
Every dream needs a ‘Prize’ – an inspiring image of the future that produces passion in people and turns ‘have to’ into ‘want to’. When we are facing the fear barrier, the Prize comes to our assistance and says, “You can do it.” When self-limiting belief seeks to undermine us, the Prize helps us to be overcomer. It helps us be a victor and not a victim. With this Prize, this inspiring image of our future, we find the belief to work towards achieving what we want to achieve. We realise that we don’t have to stay in the realm of ‘have to’.
If we can help people find their Prize, then we can help them to turn their ‘have to’ into ‘want to’. When I was at university, I wanted to learn how to swim further. I wanted to be able to do more than one length without stopping and gasping for breath at each end of the pool. I came across a friend in the Sports Science faculty who spent some time with me to provide some inspiration, to help me focus on my dream, and to help me face my fears and my self limiting beliefs, and within just a few days I was swimming a mile non-stop.
Recently I had a dream that seemed totally out of reach. I dreamt of becoming a professional speaker. I wanted to help leaders learn to maximise their effectiveness and that of their teams. This was in line with my core passion but seemingly beyond my ability. However, as I spent some time focusing on that Prize, that inspiring image of reaching more people, I discovered the passion that helped me to break through my fears and challenge my self-limiting beliefs. It resulted in me sharing the stage at the World Marriott Hotel in Orlando with John Maxwell – someone that I look up to and respect as a world class leadership expert. I discovered the inspiration that turned ‘have to’ into ‘want to’. I achieved something that was beyond my wildest dreams.
Roger is a leadership specialist delivering Leadership for Business Achievement through Speaking, Training and Coaching to business leaders and entrepreneurs.
“He is articulate, tracks complex issues with ease and has an incredible gift for raising pearls of wisdom out of the murky depths of people and process.” His passion is to help people to learn effective leadership skills to lead their teams to capitalize on their strengths and passions to realize their dreams.
Leadership for Business also invests into the dreams of families in the world’s underserved communities to offer them small loans that empower them to invest in their future, to provide for their families and give back to their communities.
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Life and Leadership
–is an interview series with leaders involved in the Global Leadership Network and the Global Leadership Summit. It takes inspiration primarily from The Guardian’s, ‘This Much I know,’ as well as interviews in Alpha Life, New Wine Magazine and others.
Interview by Will Salmon.